Your Happily Ever After: How to take Responsibility of Your Own Happiness

 

 

 

 

 

 

Earlier this week I wrote a blog about how you don’t need a boyfriend to make you happy. You are in charge of your own happiness. No other man can make you happy. Same thing goes for the men, no other woman will make you happiness. This is actually how relationships fail because people depend on their partner to make them happy.

What inspired me to write this blog post is that I went to the Department of Human Services today and, let me tell you something there were a lot of miserable people there. I know that this place is the last place a person wants to be but there should be some happiness. What really disappointed me in the welfare office, that the employees at the desk acted like they didn’t even care. They weren’t even happy.

I’m pretty sure most of the people who follow my blog are  suffering through trials right now we all do but we need to make ourselves happy. Happiness will help us overcome our trials.

There are five ingredients to happiness:

Optimism

Gratitude

Mindfulness

Hope

Spirituality

Those five things will help you be happy. Those are the things you need to be happy. You see how having a boyfriend/girlfriend, spouse, career, how much weight you lose, how much money you make is not on the list. That is not saying those things are important but we shouldn’t rely on those things to make us happy. We should use the five ingredients to make you happy and, never lose them.

You will probably never have a spouse, a boyfriend or a girlfriend, the career that you want, or make a lot of money you can even lose these things but you will never lose optimism, gratitude, mindfulness, hope, and, spirituality if you decide to keep that in your life. None of these five things cost a thing.

If you have depression, you can seek help and get treatment. If you have an unhappy situation you are in and, it’s possible for you can change that then change it. Those 5 ingredient will actually help you change it

I will go in depth about these 5 ingredients in another blog, Trust me these five ingredients will help you. We all have trials going on in our lives but it’s possible to stay happy. Once you choose to be happy, there will be a “Happily Ever After”

 

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Things I do not want to hear about love

On my last post I written down why I’m scared to date. If you didn’t read that post hears the link https://angelhasajournal.wordpress.com/2014/04/23/afraid-to-have-my-heartbroken-the-affects-of-domestic-violence/

Because of that experience I had there are thing that people say that bother me really bad even if it’s true or not.

1.Love is a choice: When I hear this I hear that love is a burden. It kind of takes the magic out of love. It’s like saying you choose the person you love, you choose to marry them, and you stuck with them for life. If love is a choice, I could choose to love the man down the street. I don’t know a thing about him but I’m going to choose to love him and propose to him.
I wonder if I’m thinking too deep about the phrase love is a choice. Am I thinking too deep on it.

2. There is no such thing as soul mates there are a lot of people in the world: Though this statement may be true. it’s hard. I was kind of hoping if I prayed hard enough, God or the Universe will send me a guy that is not like my father. A guy who is patient, honest, loving, funny etc. But I’m going to have to work at relationship, I have to work at finding a guy if I want to be with a guy one day. I don’t trust myself or people that much, to rely on myself alone. It’s not much I want God to send me a man, I want him to point me to the right direction.

See those are my issues with this. Love should be exciting but for me it’s scary. Honestly, I can’t trust my own instincts if a guy is good or bad. I always doubt myself. I guess I have to take my journey in young adulthood and, learn to trust my instincts.

I Like Him A lot Love Him Even

I hope and pray that I can tell him how I feel. I pray that I will see him again. He is so sweet and he is such an happy person. But he will be going home to California. He doesn’t look like Denzel Washington, Idris Elba or Brad Pitt. He does not look like an Calvin Klein model but he is handsome to me. He is beautiful on the inside.

He is just a friend now but if I would tell him how I feel I would say, when you smile I smile. I want you to be happy. I want to make you happy. The thought of hurting you makes me cry because I would never want to do that to you. You inspire me. I don’t want to see you cry but if you do I would be there by your side. You make me want to be a better person than I’m already am . When I’m with you I feel that we are the only two people in this world. I know that sounds cheesy but it’s true.

We connect and it is so natural for us. When I first met you, I felt like we known each other forever. I felt like we were best friends just catching up with one another. When it is time to be apart. I know in my gut that you feel the same way. The way you look at me and, talk to me. When we talk it seems so natural. Maybe that’s the kind of person you are. A very outgoing person but the way we are together. It feels right you know.

Recently he found out his brother died. I haven’t seen him in 3 weeks though. If I knew his phone number I would call him and be there for him. Thinking of him being sad makes me sad. Not because I pity him but because I love him. Love ! What do I know about love? Is it a feeling? Is it a choice? Do you love for you or do you love for him? I am so confused. Why am I so confused? I want to show him that I love him and, I want to tell him but I am scared I might scare him away. People say that the guy should ask you out, the guy should say I love you first but when I see him I want to hold him and, say everything will be okay.

Should I call it infatuation, should I call it a crush or should I call it love? When people say his name I think “I want to take care of him.” I want to be there for him. I want to make love to him. Is it to early to say that? Making love? I am new to this concept of love and sex. I don’t know what to do. Why do I want these things? Why do I want him to be happy?  Why does he make me happy.

It’s embarrassing for me to be vulnerable and, talk about making love.

I am scared to admit that I love him. I’m afraid people might think I’m stupid. So I am just going to say I like him a lot. He influenced my life. I pray that I will see him again and, when I do see him again, I will be ready.  I will show him and tell him how I feel. It is not like he didn’t tell me he loved me before he did but I don’t know what kind of love he meant. I did not say it back. I don’t believe in soul mate but I know in my heart that he’s the right guy for me. I care for him deeply. He’s amazing.

How to Respect Women: Boys I’m talking to you

One day I was taking a stroll around my neighborhood and, these three boys were staring at me. They looked like they were teenagers. One of then yelled “Hey!” to me. He walked over to me and, I was wondering if I knew him from somewhere. Then he asked. “Do you suck dicks?” I said no. He thought I was another girl he said. I felt very uncomfortable and, disgusted. Why would someone come out and, ask anyone that. What a creep. This is why I am writing this blog today. How to respect a lady. I made a list.

 

– Do not ask a girl if she suck dick. That is just rude and disgusting.

– If you see a girl and, you think she’s cute but you don’t know what to say, just smile at her. Don’t whistle or, bark like a dog.

– Open the door if you see a woman coming. You do it with women you know and, don’t know.

– Practice chivalry

– See them as human beings, not objects.

– Don’t pressure a girl to have sex. No means no.

– Don’t expect to make out on the first date. Try having a conversation.

– Don’t put your hand on women. That means don’t hit her or punch her. Don’t abuse her.

– Think about how you want a man or a person to treat your mother or sister. Do you want someone to ask them if they suck dicks. I hope you don’t.

– Don’t call them derogatory names. How would you feel if someone calls your mother the c-word.

Think about how you want to be treated as a human being. I mean do you really want someone to randomly come up to you and ask  you. “Do you suck dick?”