Love? Love is Beautiful

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King, Jr

When I was a teenager, I thought love hurt. I thought that love was when you love someone so much it hurt. When I was young, I thought love was disgusting.You know I went through that boys have cooties phase. I think most of us went through that phase. When we separated ourselves from the opposite sex. I realized that love come in many different forms, the love you have for your significant other, the love you have for your friend, the love you have for you family, and even the love you have for a stranger. Love is more than affection and, butterflies in your stomach. I just realized that. Love doesn’t hurt, and it’s a choice.

You can see people love each other everywhere you go. You can see love when a mother hold her child. You can see it when a person is by their friend side, when they a crying. You can see it when someone is helping a person take their groceries to their car.

When someone loves you, they don’t hurt you intentionally. People who love you uplift you, they don’t try to bring you down. They help you out all they can. People who love you make sacrifices for you. When your friend can be doing something else like watching “Dr Who” they are actually at your house comforting you because one of your loved ones dies. Your boyfriend might miss the football game just so he can spend time with you. Instead of having a girls night out, your girlfriend decides that she wants to spend time with you by playing your favorite video game. Remember how you parents went to every sports event, or any event that you had at school or your community? They wanted to see you. Why? Because they loved you.They probably wouldn’t be there if it wasn’t for you. They probably tried to get off work and, make room in their schedule, just to see you. That’s one way to tell that your parent love you.Taking care of someone when they are sick, is love. Saying “I love you” is love, while you are also showing them how much you love them

To me love is when you care for someone. Love is acts of kindness for a person you care about, and/or have deep feelings for. Love is also caring for someones needs. Love is being there for them. Love is the base in every friendship, and relationship. A friendship without love is is just being aquantances. A serious relationship without love is just infatuation.

That brings us to that question. Is love a feeling? Well “falling in love” is a feeling but it can fade in my opinion. “Being in love” is a choice. “Falling in love” is just another way of saying that you are infatuated. Sexual attraction is part of it also. You have a choice to stay in love in a romantic relationship. Relationships take work. The way you treat each other in an relationship will either bring you two closer together or push you two apart. It is up to the both of you, if you want to become closer or grow apart.

Love is a bond that brings people together. That is what makes love beautiful and, that is what makes love a force. That is what makes it more powerful than hate. That is what Martin Luther King Jr. meant when he said this  “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King, Jr

Love is so powerful it can get rid of hate. Love doesn’t hurt, if it does then it is not love. If you hurt the people you love unintentionally and, intentiontionally, say you are sorry and, don’t do what you did again. Responsibilities come with relationships but if you are willing to be that persons lover, or that persons friend it would be worth it. Love is what brings us together. Show the people in your life that you love them through actions and, words. Do something nice for them and for strangers. It is okay to love strangers too. Love is beautiful. Love others and accept the love others give to you.

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Rap Music does not define Black culture

Ok This is going to be another controversial blog so, I am sorry that you are offended by this article.

I was reading this article by Veronica Bayetti Flores. She was talking about this singer name Lorde who sing this song called “Royals” . You probably heard this song. Veronica doesn’t have to like the song but she called the song racist. You may be wondering why she called the song racist.

But every song’s like gold teeth, grey goose, trippin’ in the bathroom.
Blood stains, ball gowns, trashin’ the hotel room,
We don’t care, we’re driving Cadillacs in our dreams.
But everybody’s like Cristal, Maybach, diamonds on your time piece.
Jet planes, islands, tigers on a gold leash
We don’t care, we aren’t caught up in your love affair

She thinks she is being racist because she mentions gold teeth and, probably because she also mentioned tripping in the bathroom. Now I understand why she came up with that impression because most rappers where gold teeth, and most rappers are Black but it seems like in her article she made it seem like Gold teeth = black people.

I am black and, I am not offended by Lorde’s song at all but i am offended by this article and, here’s why?

“Because we all know who she’s thinking when we’re talking gold teeth, Cristal and Maybachs. So why shit on black folks? Why shit on rappers? Why aren’t we critiquing wealth by taking hits at golf or polo or Central Park East?”

Well I know who you are thinking about Ms. Veronica. I know for a fact you are thinking about black folks. To be honest, Lorde was probably thinking about black folks. But it is not her fault and it is not black peoples fault. It is the media’s fault. That is how the media portrays us (blacks). I never met a black person who wears gold teeth. I have seen black people on TV, and I also seen people of other races on TV wear gold teeth but in real life, never. Gold teeth is a stereotype.

Lorde is right to criticize pop music culture, and mainstream hip-hop culture. She is sharing her opinion, that I happen to agree with.

It does seem today that mainstream music is about the things she mentions. It is true. Is she saying that it is bad to wear gold teeth or drive Cadillac. No, but how did Veronica get the idea that owning a Cadillac=Black people.  I wish I owned an Cadillac but I don’t. How does diamonds=Black people. Well I did hear that diamonds came from Africa. But really though, rappers portray those things and, now when people think of these things, Veronica thinks Black people must own those things and, they also must trip in the bathroom.

Like I said I am more offended by this article and, one of the response comments. I am baffled. Really baffled. Veronica is accusing Lorde’s song to be racist, while her article seems more racist to me. Or should I say prejudice. She assumes that all black people wear gold teeth, all black people drive a Cadillac’s. If you want to know what black music really is besides gold teeth, I write about that later. If you want to know what Black Culture is, I would write a blog about that too.

 

 

 

Killed for no reason? People really need to know what self-defense is

Warning: This will have a lot of typos. Plus this is my first serious and controversial post.

I am baffled. Really really really baffled.I am sorry but this needs to be said. In my hometown in Detroit, specifically Dearborn Height there was this lady around my age who was 19 years old because she was on someones porch asking for help because she got into a car accident and her cell phone was dead. I guess the owner of the house got scared and, killed her. Which is really horrible. The shooters said he shot her by accident, and we would never hear the victims side of the story because she is dead. People are angry about this not just because an innocent woman got shot. (I guess she was innocent we are going to have to have updates on the case later.) What piss people off is that a Black woman got killed by an White man. He was never arrested.

What piss me off is not that no one arrested him yet, it is that someone got killed in the first place. Okay you are scared that someone you don’t know is knocking on the door. What do you do? Don’t answer the door. You can call the police if they don’t go away. You can tell them to go away, that would be better than shooting the person. You have to think before you do, not do before you think. Human life, ALL HUMAN LIFE is precious.

Don’t shoot someone if you feel threatened, shoot someone if you are threatened.  Anyone can feel threatened. Right now I am writing this at 12:00 am at night alone, in my dining room. Because of the fact I am alone and I hear noises in the hallway because I live in an apartment. I feel threatened but am I threatened? No. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in self-defense but the woman was asking for help. How can she hurt anyone? By the way if you want to learn real self-defense without using a gun, take a self defense class. That would be way better than taking someones life.

Then their is the race issue. Lets be honest with ourselves we all discriminate toward Blacks. Blacks even discriminate towards Blacks. (When I say “we all” I mean all races. Not individuals )We need to acknowledge it and then we need to stop it. We need to stop discriminating towards everyone. I am tired of the inequality of this country. I am tired of the racial divide. Stop it with this foolishness. How hard is it to treat people like they are equal? And I really want people to answer this question. Why is it so hard? Stop being racist. Go to therapy if you have to. Just stop. Now I don’t know if the shooter was racist or not but I do know that he was scared. It could have been because Renisha McBride was Black or the shooter was paranoid. It could have been both.

We are living in fear. Lets take race out of the equation. These day we are fearful of everything. Stop living in fear. I am not saying trust people you just meet, just don’t be scared of them. Now Black people are scared that they might get shot just by asking for help. SMH

I have some advice to all human beings with love:

1. Stop being prejudice

2. Think before you do, not do before you think: In other words stay freaking calm when you “feel” you are in danger.

3. Stop being racist

You know what makes me sick? That I actually have to write “Stop being prejudice and stop being racist”.

I know a lot of people are going to angry at my post. This may cause a lot of controversy. A lot of racist might get pissed off but I don’t care it needs to be said. I am pissed off at this society too. I hope that the police investigates and see what really happened that day. At least before Al Sharpton get involved. Anyone associate with MSNBC or, even with Fox news leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

It is not healthy to live in fear. It is not healthy to be afraid of a person because of their race. Or is it healthy? It can’t be healthy. People need to learn to stop being fearful. If the person wasn’t fearful, if the person wasn’t prejudice, if the person would have think before he did, this wouldn’t have ever happened. But it did, and we need to find a way to prevent this from happening again. We need to teach our kids not to live in fear, and not to be racist. There is a difference between being cautious and living in fear for we can keep people safe.

Renisha McBrides family are in my prayers. May Renisha McBride Rest in Peace.

Why is it so hard to look at people as equals?

Do you think this has something to with the stand your ground law?

* I may not be the best writer but I do have a voice and opinions that needs to be heard. Let your voice be heard people. Stand up for what is right.