In this day and age where we all are busy, we never have a chance to spend time with family. The teenagers want to spend most of their time with friends, and the parents work a lot. Don’t get me wrong nothing is wrong with working, and nothing is wrong with hanging out with people your own age. But some families get to the point where they don’t even know each other anymore.
That is probably why teenagers and parent don’t connect like they should besides the whole teenagers trying to find your own identity thing. They are afraid that their parents might judge them because they spend enough time together to build trust. My worries is that parents get to that point where they don’t know what their children are doing.
How do you not know that your daughter has boyfriend?
How do you not know your son is having unprotected sex?
How do you not know you child brought a torture weapon?
How do you not know that your child is unhappy?
I understand some people are single parents, so they have to work a lot. You can still try to have a night with the family. I know most teens will think a family night is lame but you can have a lot of conversations with each other to build that trust again. Your child will feel more comfortable to tell you more thing, if you are not quick to judge. You can also try to eat at the kitchen table with the family. A lot of stuff comes out at the kitchen table.
They might not tell you most of the things that are going in their social life right away but here are the things that a parent should know about their teen.
1. Who their friends are.
2. What are their hobbles. (If you are a parent who doesn’t know your children hobbies, all I have to say is wow)
3. How are they feeling.
I am in no way saying that parents and teens should be friends, but in my opinion a parent and their child bond should be strong. Children shouldn’t become friends with their parents until they become parents themselves. You should trust one another like a person would trust a friend but they should be able trust each other more. Parent should still keep boundaries but don’t lose that relationship because your child may have a secret life that you probably don’t even know about.
Don’t forget to tell your kids that you love them, because I’m pretty sure they love you too.