Coming Soon: Healthy Relationships and friendship

I am going to start a series about healthy relationships starting next week. I think healthy relationships and friendship are important. If you have any questions you may ask. I’m going to do an Q/A thing. I want it to target teens and, young adults. But all people can feel free to read.


They Don’t Have to Like You

So, on another post I wrote about Abercrombie and Fitch and on how haters gonna hate. It’s true, people are going to hate you and, judge you on the way you look or your religion. It use to sadden me but now I’m like whatever. See I am an overweight African-American girl and, do you know how many people hate me because of that? Someone gave me the stink eye. I don’t know why they gave me the stink eye but,they sure did. I left it alone. The reason why I wrote this blog is because a lot of people who are gay are sad that people tolerate them but they are angry or sad that they don’t agree with their lifestyle As more gay people come out of the closet, more haters are going to come out of the closet. That’s what I think will happen. Laws change but people don’t.

All I have to say is to the people who are gay and, feel that people don’t like them because of it, shake them off, give them the finger and, move on.

I know that this statement is kind of harsh but, you can’t make people feel a certain way. People are going to talk and, hate but as long as they are not being fake to you,harassing or, yelling in your face, you can’t do anything about it. Don’t let anyone do those things to you by the way, I’m going to write a blog about that later on why you shouldn’t let people treat you like crap.

People are going to hate you because of your race, weight, sexual orientation, religion and, things but, they’re also people who will love you. Think about the people who  love you. If you don’t have anyone, try to make friends who will accept you.

Love yourself, and be confident! Live for you! Believe in yourself!

The only person that should like you is you.

Be a Parent Dammit

Ok I am usually a really nice person. I am usually sugar coat things, but no one else like ti sugar coat things and others thing. One thing that bothers me is that parents do mot know how to be parents anymore.

In the link above a woman wrote a blog. Just read the blog.

While I kind of agree because I am concerned about the health welfare of the child. That’s what teenagers are children. I still think that the doctors should notify the parents. It also got me thinking, what kind of parent doesn’t know that your child is having sex or have an STD? Why can’t parent know what their child is up too? Are the children too scared to tell the parent? Are the children too fast for their own good?

Why can’t people have discipline in their own home? What is going on? Why don’t parent talk to their children. Why don’t teens talk to their parents?

Something is wrong here. Children don’t have respect for their parents anymore. Sometimes I do think some children should be whipped but you can’t even do that anymore without calling it child abuse.Parents need to be clear with their kids about the rules.

Do parents have rules anymore.? There is this video of a man whooping his daughters because they were twerking on camera. If you don’t know what twerking is, look it up on youtube. .That also got me thinking. How in the word do these young girls no what twerking is? Do these parent monitor what their children watch? Do they know what music their children are listening to? Do they have television blocks? I know the girl probably learned what twerking was from friends and, other kids at school? Do you know where your kids are? Do you have a curfew for you kids? Are you your kids parent or are you their friend?

Be your child parent, not their friend. Parenthood and friendship are two different relationships. At the same time the child shouldn’t fear the parent, but respect the parent. I guess the child can fear the parent enough to respect them but, don’t make them think you are the boogie man. Well keep on loving you children. Nothing is wrong with discipline.

You may comment if you would like

Peace and Love



What do you think? People Obsessing Over Celebrities.

I am very upset with this society. I am very upset with people. I’m going to tell you why. I just found out about this yesterday. In the beginning of the year there was a picture of Justin Bieber smoking weed.  Some troll decided that it would be funny if they started this protest and said Justin Bieber fans should cut themselves. Guess what? Some of the fans did and, it was all over twitter. All these hash tags. Kids are getting dumber and, dumber. Cutting is not a joke and it is very serious but that’s not the point I am trying to make. Why are we so obsess with celebrities? Are bored with are own lives. Who cares if Justin Bieber is smoking weed? To be honest I don’t think anyone should be smoking weed but why is it anyone business. Fans are hurting themselves because they are too busy worrying about a celebrity. These are more than fans,these are fanatics. Not religious fanatics but, they are worshiping celebrities they probably will never meet.

All the personal questions the interviewers be asking The Biebs. When Justin Bieber turned 18 they ask “Are you still a virgin?” Is that anyone business? Let these celebrities be. I don’t want to know if Justin Bieber is a virgin. The reason why I’m using Justin Bieber as an example because I realize teenagers and preteens are crazy. Not all but most teenagers have their crazy moments. Justin Bieber fans are the craziest. Now we follow celebrities on twitter.

Some  Justin Bieber fans threatened Selena Gomez because they started dating. Or was it Kim Kardashian? Justin Bieber doesn’t want you.

This isn’t the first time a fan on a celebrity did something crazy.  Several years ago I think there was this woman who was stalking  a singer named Paula Abdul. The woman killed herself in front of Paula Abdul’s house.

I have a couple of questions.

Why do you think some fans obsess over celebrities?

Why do we care about actors and, singers personal lives?

Why does it seem like there are teenage girl doing all the obsessing?

Well those are my first “What do you think?” questions. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be fans of a celebrity. Just don’t get obsess. Don’t hurt yourself over them.

P.S. I was going to name the blog “Cut for Justin Bieber” but I didn’t want people to get the wrong idea or think I’m supporting this mess.

Body Shaming: Dieting and Weight

Since the Abercrombie and Fitch controversy, I have been thinking a lot about body shaming. Living here in the U.S.A we are a weight obsess society, and we are also have a lot of junk food here. We eat out a lot and, we diet a lot. It is ridiculous. We have all these weight loss shows and, weight loss products. We also have all this food. Because of this people are becoming obese and, have eating disorders. What is up with the contradiction?

On television, magazines and, movies  are making us feel bad about our bodies. They want us to be thinner. Sometimes they pressure us to be thin even when we are already thin. They have cereal like “Cheerios” taking advantage of the fact that people are insecure about their weight and, taking advantage of the “obesity epidemic”. Weight loss pills are also taking advantage of it.The T.V. shows like “The Biggest Loser” is fake. No one workout 5 hours a day, and loses weight that fast. I know most of the people are morbidly obese but they lose weight faster than an everyday person who is morbidly obese. I know people watch the show for motivation but that show makes me sick to my stomach. It doesn’t motivate me at all. Does it even go to the root of the problem of why they eat a lot of fast food in the first place.

People are also calling people who are too thin anorexic. Anorexia is not a joke and, you shouldn’t be calling anyone that. Some people are naturally skinny. Some people are naturally heavy. I didn’t say naturally fat, but I did  say naturally heavy or curvy. There is a difference. Some people have a low metabolism, and some people have  a high metabolism.

You shouldn’t even make fun of people if they are fat. You don’t know why they are fat. It could be because, of medication, thyroid disease, or they probably depress so they eat a lot.

Fad diet are also a bad idea. Going on fad diets are unhealthy, and you can’t diet for the rest of your life. If you want to change your eating habits, change your lifestyle.

Eat a balance diet, and lay off the sweets. Exercise if you want to lose weight. Actually I hate the term losing weight, so I’m going to change it to getting healthier. Ditch the scale and, just eat healthy and, exercise. Food addicts and people with eating disorder probably need more help like therapy, and/or treatment. You shouldn’t focus on weight because it will just run you crazy. You will go insane.

The most successful weight loss stories are the ones where the people focus more on health than weight. Their motivation is they want to be healthy for their kids. They want to be there to see them graduate, get married, and have children of their own. They also lose weight because they don’t want a disease that is caused by obesity. They also want to see the world or run faster or be stronger. Yes they want to lose weight, but that is not their only goal. Their goal is to be healthier. Let me get real. I am not talking about people who want to lose 20 pounds because they are only 20 pounds overweight. I’m talking about people who are 50 pounds overweight and over that lost weight successfully. Some personal trainer from TV said when you exercise and eat healthier, you might not see it on the outside right away but, the insides are already changing.

If you only want to lose 20 pounds to fit into a dress for any special occasions. I’ll give you some advice. My advice is buy another freaking dress that fits. If you want to lose 20 pounds the healthy way because you are worried about your health, and scared that you will end up gaining more. Have a healthier and, more balance diet.

I am overweight and I lost 30 pounds, and have 30 more to go. I’m not counting I probably lost more. My freshman year in high school I starved myself for a month and lost 20 pounds in that month. I only ate one meal a day. That wasn’t really healthy obviously. When I was in high school, I took laxatives to lose weight. It felt horrible. I tried to lose weight for boys can like me. I wanted to lose weight to be beautiful. Then I gained back 30 pounds. Today, I lost 30 pounds. The last time I weighed myself and it said I lost 30 pounds. Let me tell you I have haters before I lost 30 pounds and, haters after. Now some people are saying I’m getting to skinny. I’m like please! I am eating healthier, and exercising. My body is just responding to it. My weight was 200 pounds and, now I’m 170 so nothing is wrong with me losing more weight. I know I have a bigger muscle mass or whatever but I want look sick if I lose 30 more pounds. Haters will never go away. That’s why you have to do the things that you want to do as long as you are not hurting yourself and nobody else.

Even if you are overweight that doesn’t mean you can’t love yourself. No one is meant to look like the models in the magazines. Look like yourself, and love yourself. Focus on your overall health instead of weight.

Peace and Love


How to Respect Women: Boys I’m talking to you

One day I was taking a stroll around my neighborhood and, these three boys were staring at me. They looked like they were teenagers. One of then yelled “Hey!” to me. He walked over to me and, I was wondering if I knew him from somewhere. Then he asked. “Do you suck dicks?” I said no. He thought I was another girl he said. I felt very uncomfortable and, disgusted. Why would someone come out and, ask anyone that. What a creep. This is why I am writing this blog today. How to respect a lady. I made a list.


– Do not ask a girl if she suck dick. That is just rude and disgusting.

– If you see a girl and, you think she’s cute but you don’t know what to say, just smile at her. Don’t whistle or, bark like a dog.

– Open the door if you see a woman coming. You do it with women you know and, don’t know.

– Practice chivalry

– See them as human beings, not objects.

– Don’t pressure a girl to have sex. No means no.

– Don’t expect to make out on the first date. Try having a conversation.

– Don’t put your hand on women. That means don’t hit her or punch her. Don’t abuse her.

– Think about how you want a man or a person to treat your mother or sister. Do you want someone to ask them if they suck dicks. I hope you don’t.

– Don’t call them derogatory names. How would you feel if someone calls your mother the c-word.

Think about how you want to be treated as a human being. I mean do you really want someone to randomly come up to you and ask  you. “Do you suck dick?”

People are going to hate. My response to the Abercrombie and Fitch controversy.

So I heard about the Abercrombie and Fitch controversy and, if you don’t know about it yet the link is right here.

It made me realize that people are going to hate you for no good reason and, people are going to talk. Let me tell you something, everyone is beautiful. No, I’m not trying to be nice but I personally think everyone is beautiful. I came up with that conclusion when there was this guy, and people had feelings about his looks. Some people thought he was handsome, and some people thought he was ugly. My personal experience with myself that some people think I’m ugly and some people think I am beautiful.

The truth is people are going to say mean things about you by the way you look, not your character. People are going to hate you because of you race. People are going to hate you because of your weight. People are going to hate you because of your religion. They are going to hate you and, insult you just because.

What can you do?

Ignore them and, be the best person you can be.

You don’t have to have anything to do with your haters and, you don’t have to support Abercrombie and Fitch. You know you are a good person, and when you learn to love yourself, you will realize how beautiful you really are and, won’t care what other people think about you.

Peace and Love